I Find Being Able To Communicate With People Face-To-Face Helps Keep My Vitality Up During Months the Sunlight Has a Shorter Span

I’ve found interesting scientific studies that illustrate mental conditions that occur during the months we get less sunlight. A Dr. Mercola has an interesting write- up about this. I believe I mentioned him in a previous post.

 

I’m thankful that I live in Manhattan and I travel by bus and subway and come into contact with many people when I’m out and about. Most of the people I meet while traveling aren’t people I know (although I’m surprised at how many times I do come in contact with people from my neighborhood or people who belong t groups I do. I also live in a building that has activities planned for the residents. I, actually, wish I could attend more of them. I feel blessed to be part of a community in the Entertainment World that has members who come out to support each other by attending each other’s shows. I’m out seeing their shows several nights a week. I always find being with caring people is uplifting. I find that in the late fall through early spring I’m especially in need of contact with friendly people.

 

I’m always thrilled to be with my son who lives just a few ferry stops across the East River from my apartment. However, I don’t want to be a “suffocating mother”. I know that he has many friends and has his life to live.

 

I fully understand that there are many people who live alone, without a husband or wife or family member, who don’t like to be in crowds. We each have our own needs in that department.

While I happen to like being where there are several people. I am finding that even people who don’t like to be in crowds find their spirits lifted by going to a spot where people gather every so often, especially in the months that have days with shorter spans of sunlight.

 

If you’re still working you probably do get a chance to mingle with people. Even if you’re retired you can go to hear an interesting talk at a library or go to the movies. Now that the days are getting shorter you might want to plan you week to include some activities with friends.

 

If your friends are out of town through the weeks before the holidays check out your area for communal activities. Even small towns will usually have some of them.

 

You might also think of taking of taking a class in a subject that interests you or a class to learn a new craft.

 

If you’re older and unable to drive yourself and you don’t have help at home you can research the car services in your area.

 

Cities seem to be a more welcoming place for older citizens. I’ve written about this before and shall shortly look into it again.

 

I wish you the happiest holidays yet!!!

Published in: on December 8, 2017 at 4:55 am  Leave a Comment  

Lately It Seems As though a Higher Force Is Caring For Me! Maybe, It’s Simply What Life Is!!

I’m realizing that since for over a decade I’ve truly cared about my well-being, starting with my physical well being – and that now I’m beginning to trust that Life on Earth is a Good Thing – things I may not have expected to work in my favor are beginning to!

 

This realization began this week with seemingly silly simple things. The minute I got home and didn’t see some jewelry in the bag I’d picked up and brought home with me, I thought, “Oh no! I’d neglected to take it home from the theater. Dumb Bobbie! You went all the way to the Upper West Side to pick up the dress and shoes and jewelry you wore in the show you did Sunday … and you forgot to retrieve the jewelry which included a gift from your dear and loved friend and videographer!!!

 

Guess what?  I picked up a plastic bag from a counter in my kitchen – and what did I see in it? The jewelry – including the gift! I hadn’t left it at the theater! I’d bought it home with me the night I did the show!

 

Many things like that have been happening in the past week. It’s as though the Universe is telling me “You’re not losing your brain! The healthy things you’ve learned to eat – healthy for YOU – and the exercise you do is helping you to keep your brain function in tact.   More and more I realize that I’m “God’ to the cells in my brain and my body just like I’m a cell in “God’s” body – and God is taking care of me just like I’m taking care of the cells in my body!

 

Today happens to be my “Half Year Birthday” and I’m thinking of how many future years I want to live. In thirty years I’ll be 107 & ½ years old. That sounds adequate now. However, people are living longer and longer so, perhaps when I’m 107 I won’t feel ready to go.

 

But ya know what? I’m beginning to see that as long as my goal is to fulfill whatever purpose I was put on Earth to fulfill – it’s all OK! Wow! All OK!

 

I’m finding that for the past few months I’m able to – as they say – “breathe easier and enjoy my minutes on Earth!” Intuitively, I know that if I can – you can too!

Published in: on November 23, 2017 at 3:39 am  Comments (4)  

I Attended a Fab Meeting of Female College & Female “College +” Grads at the NYC Center for the NY State ILR School

I was uplifted to see how delightful and bright the females who attended were.

What really astounded me was hearing the degree to which “Attitudes re: Women Working” changed about a decade after I graduated from the NY State School of Industrial and Labor Relations at Cornell University! I graduated in 1961. The next oldest person I met at the event graduated in 1979 and some of the others graduated in the 80s. Most graduated I the 90’s and later. Although most of the attendees assumed that they would marry and have a child or two, none seemed to have planned to not continue working for most of their life. After a few (some more than a few) years of working for a company, law firm, etc. some took a year or two off from work to attend to having and caring for a child. Some mentioned they’d taken of a year or two before returning to their jobs. Not one had even thought of not returning to work after starting their family!

 

When I went to Cornell most of my friends and I planned to work until we met the “right man”, who would marry us and father our children and support us – his family – for the rest of our lives. This is what we dreamed of. I know I did. It was after my son had entered school that the urge to be in theater, the urge I’d had from grade school through high school took over my heart and brain.  I took a job as a research assistant in my father’s labor relations law firm.

 

Granted many of the women there were lawyers having attended fine law schools. Most of the others had various positions in the field of human relations. What was interesting is that everyone of then has continued working.

 

It will be interesting to see if this commitment to work helps to keep them fit as they age. I have a feeling that it will still pay for them to do the research to keep their own particular body fit and not just follow the “word going ‘round” about what’s healthy among their industry mates. I was thrilled with the interest the bright women who attended gave to my book when I mentioned it to them. I’ll do my best to send notices re my book to as many firms as possible. I’d love to see these women workers stay fit throughout their lives and surely for as long as possible!

Published in: on October 12, 2017 at 3:32 am  Leave a Comment  

I Now Often Find When a Day Starts Out In a Way That Makes Me Say, “I’m Not Going To Accomplish Anything I Had Planned To!” – I Get It All Done – and Then Some!

Today was one of those days I haven’t had in a long time. I rarely oversleep and I heard my alarm clock ringing and turned it off and slept for another hour. That’s very “not me”.

It was my day to start marketing my show, my book and my workshops to a large community of buyers.

I had a whole list of tasks I’d written down to do today, I was to start taking precise actions re researching which organizations and libraries, etc. would be the best for me to pitch myself to for getting speaking engagements and possibly conducting workshops at, to market my book, “Fit and Fabulous From Fifty Forward!” I also planned to find good dates on which to present my “Dress To Get YES!” workshops. In addition I felt I needed to get the marketing material ready for my November 10th “It’s Just a Number!” show.

The phone started ringing as soon as I got to the kitchen. I’d had my daily cup of lemon juice and taken my supplements; but I’d done no facial exercises and I hadn’t yet made my bed! I’d pulled back the sheets, etc. to air out my bed, but I hadn’t yet gone back to make it. My bedroom and bathroom weren’t in perfect order and it was 1PM! I was getting many phone calls at 1PM and I hadn’t even had my breakfast!

HOWEVER – I began to realize that the phone calls were from people who had given me gifts – like Natasha Castillo mentioning my upcoming show and putting pictures of my last show on “Nightlife Exchange” online! My flyer designer, Glen Charlow, completed my next show’s flyer and Staples let me know it was ready for pick-up. Balboa Press let me know that they updated the website for my book, “Fit and Fabulous From Fifty Forward!” and others mentioned me on Facebook, etc. This all led to people calling me to ask about my services.

Published in: on October 6, 2017 at 5:14 pm  Leave a Comment  

From Now On When I Find That Something Works – I’ll Keep Doing It!

The Learning Continues! Once again I Learned I was in error.

I recently had a bone density exam. I schedule them every couple of years since I did have somewhat sever Osteoporosis at one point.

 

I’d cured the Osteoporosis by a combination of diet change, taking mild medication and doing exercises. I was advised to do Isometric exercise and lift heavy weights for a period of time. I did what I was advised to do and was thrilled that it worked! As soon as my bone density tests showed I was normal I stopped taking the medication. After having my bone density exams show that I was normal and cured of Osteoporosis for a few years, I stopped the heavy-weight lifting sessions. I continued to do the Isometric exercises daily. I’m very glad I continued with them. I believe that this year’s diagnosis would have been even less favorable if I’d stopped those too.

 

I stopped lifting weights about three years ago. I went for a bone density exam at the end of June this year. I then had a follow up appointment with a doctor recommended to me by my wonderful orthopedist, Bradley Wasserman, who lives in my building. Yesterday I went for my follow up appointment with the rheumatologist, Natalie Azar, who Bradley recommended. I immediately adored her and knew I was blessed. I was also thrilled to find that she graduated from Weill Cornell Medical College. We had Cornell in common. I’d asked Bradley for a check-up because I’d been feeling slight muscle (I thought) pain. It turns out that a bit of Osteoporosis has retuned to my hip area. Dr. Azar and I discussed my taking the medication that had helped me before. I do avoid taking medication – however, I’d be willing to take what had helped me, without ill effects – for a short while. I would stop when my bone density would return to normal. Since it the medication helped before, without any ill affects, I’m quite sure it would work again and I’d take it only for as long as necessary.

 

Then… (DRUM ROLL)… the universe sent me a signal! I got an email advertising a weight lifting studio! TA DA! The light dawned!

 

I don’t need to go to that studio. I’ll go right back up to my rooftop health club and go back to my old routine of lifting the heavy weights. I’m, automatically, a member of the health club in my building. First, I’ll schedule a couple of sessions with the wonderful Suzy Sulsona who runs the health club in my building, to make sure I’m lifting the weights in the best way possible for my body. Then I’ll keep lifting them for the number of times a week she suggests.

 

I bet my bone density will improve again soon! I’m betting I won’t have to take the medication for very long. When my bones improve – I’ll keep lifting the weights. I realize that when something natural is working for me and isn’t harming me…I’ll keep doing it!

Published in: on September 21, 2017 at 11:51 pm  Leave a Comment  

Use the Fit & Fab Methodology For Getting Fit For Almost Anything You Need To Accomplish!

 

The learning keeps continuing for me and I’m certain what I’ve been discovering for myself can work for you too!

 

From last Sunday through yesterday – I was on The Unity Center of Norwalk’s annual Retreat. I treasure these yearly retreats. So far, each year I’ve attended, my soul got it’s “Aha! Moment” at some point during the Retreat itself. This year, each day I was there, I felt I was getting closer to knowing what my focus should be for this year and thought that must have been why I was there.

 

It seems that each year I get a stronger or a new focus in life that is a step up for me and enriches my life. I find I get this yearly at the Unity Retreat.

 

By the way – you can get your inspiration from whatever source or activity works for you.

 

This morning, while going about my activities of unpacking from Retreat, doing my daily exercise, getting some extra rest I needed, straightening up my desk and handling some clerical matters, etc. I realized that I was taking action to begin to set up my path to achieve what this year’s major life goal was for me. Perhaps it will be my central goal for the next few years.

I didn’t think I’d get to thinking about anything like this before Monday

 

When the life improvements I want to focus on this year HIT me – it HIT me that the steps I’ll need to follow will be very similar to the steps I took to get fit.

While what I want to (and need to) accomplish isn’t the same as body fitness it is fitness of a sort. IT HIT ME – that everything is “fitness” pertaining to what you want/need to accomplish.

 

I’ll need to:

  • Start doing research. Find out what steps others – who’ve succeeded in the area I wish to succeed in – have taken.
  • Make a list of the areas of action that need to be looked at. For example, to get fit I needed to look at
    • Food
    • Body movements
    • Where to live – e.g., places where the weather suits my body & the pace suits my brain
  • See if there are alternative steps that might suit me better than those I’ve found through research I’ve done thus far – and look for additional people who are succeeding in the area I want to succeed in and find out what steps they’re taking. Any of these steps may or may not work for me –but I should know they exist in case they make the path easier for me.

NOTE: Remember that we’re individuals and we may need to select the means to attain each goal that best suit our brain, dexterity, etc. etc. etc.

  • Start scheduling the steps into my day and see how they work.
  • Modify them as needed.
  • Keep reading as much as I can and see where human knowledge is now -about the subject at hand.

 

 

If you’ve read my book, “Fit and Fabulous From Fifty Forward”, I’m quite certain you understand what I’m saying in this Post. It’s all the same process.

 

I’ll keep looking at this.   I’ll let you know what it is that I want to accomplish – – as I begin to accomplish some of the goals toward bettering the area of my life I’ve gotten excited about. The truth is, I need to make this area of my life work. I’m thrilled that I’m realizing I want to as well as need to – just as I did when my body needed help. I’m not really “in trouble” in the area I’m talking about – but, it will help me to do well in that area if I intend to live for many more years – and I DO INTEND TO!

 

In addition to your body’s health – what area do you want/need to better in your life?

Published in: on August 13, 2017 at 1:42 am  Leave a Comment  

God Heals My Body – I Fall – I Heal – God Needs Us to Heal

I went to a Spiritual Class given at Unity this past Tuesday. On the way home I FELL.  I used to fall quite often and have taught myself how to avoid it – and – I’ve avoided for quite a few years now.  Last night after class I was at about 97th St. heading down to the Subway and even though I was paying attention to the street their ware two squares of pavement that looked very clean an cared for – BUT – one was just slightly raised from the other and the tow of my shoe caught it and I landed flat down (except I’ve learned how to not even think and keep my face lifted.  I didn’t hit my head at all but my knees hit hard as did my hands ad I was carrying a lot in my bags as you know.

 

Two lovely young people helped me get up and the dear girl insisted on carrying my bag.  They asked if I wanted them to call 911 – and something made me say, “I’ll be fine.  I know the universe wants me to heal well.”

 

The great girl insisted going on the Subway with me if I wouldn’t take a cab. She was warm and lovely! We are now friends.

 

I found myself talking to God in my head, asking what I should do.  I could feel God say, “It’s fine to go into the supermarket that’s on your way home from the cross town bus.   (I took the subway and then the 2nd Ave Bus after falling hard!)

 

I even decided God was going to heal me.  I still feel my arm where I landed a bit – but my knees are fine. I put ice on them when I got home. AND had a very productive day!  Truly believe GOD is with me.

 

 

I remembered the time I’d burned my cells under the skin on my hands when I allowed hot water to run on my hands because didn’t see any burning. When I felt pain I went – “Oh poor little cells Mommy didn’t mean to hurt you!” I realized I was God to those cells and I needed them to be well.  I have galaxies in me (Brain, Digestive System, Heart, etc.) I’m a Universe! I’m a Universe that lives in a Universe we call God and my Universe is a Cell in “God’s Universe”.  God needs me to be well – just as I need my little cells in me to be well.

 

 

I know I told you this before – but I really GOT it this time. I needed to be in class to re-hear the choices of how to view things. I can now choose to see me as part of God all the time.  God coached me all day!

 

I now see that what can keep me Fit and Fabulous is knowing my source energy is that large being I’m part of the we call God.

 

I will add one worldly comment. I’m noticing that new street paving being done now might look smooth. However, I notice that several newly paved areas aren’t 100% smooth. There are certain pavement squares that can be as little as ¼ of and inch higher that the pavement square next to it and the toe of your shoe can catch and fall. Therefore I ask you to keep looking at the street your walking on, so that you don’t fall.

 

That said, the presence we call God needs you to be well because you’re part of that presence. We all are and we’re all needed.

 

Published in: on July 16, 2017 at 2:12 am  Comments (2)  

The Learning Continues! Instead of Fightin’ Let’s Enlighten!

In the past few months I’ve been finding myself to be “Learning! Learning! Learning!”

 

I’ve learned many ways to keep myself “fit” and, through my research, I’m glad that I’ve found ways to help YOU find good and healthy ways that work for YOU to get and stay fit.

 

What I’ve been learning I recent years is to admit that ‘life” doesn’t always seem “perfect” to me and I’ve written some Blog posts about that.

 

Yesterday and today I feel like I was hit “square in the face” with a finding that brought me back to a previous post I’d written some time ago.

Sometimes it takes me a few times to really Learn something! Do you find “re-learning” happens to you?

 

I’m usually the one smiling. People often ask me, “Don’t you ever get angry, Bobbie? “ I think that they’re thinking that I must be making it up.

 

Recently, I’ve been finding myself getting annoyed at things and I’ve realized that sometimes I am making it up!  I’m certainly, having a difficult time listening to the news or reading newspapers, these days. There’s so much anger abounding!

 

In the past two days I’ve gotten “bit” by ANGER twice. I realize that each time I’d gotten angry it was because I thought I’d been given wrong information.

 

Then the light went on!

 

If I was given information that didn’t help me get what I needed to know – I didn’t have to get angry! I could have helped the other person by letting them know what I “got” and that they could have communicated information that would have led me to think: ‘Oh right! I see what you need from me.”

 

If I TEACH INSTEAD OF FIGHT I’ll be more likely to get what I need and keep the other person on my team. They, probably, had no idea I would be surprised and/or angry by what I “got” from their invitation or explanation. I’m NOW quite sure they didn’t want to anger me. They wanted to sell me their product!

 

Today I discovered that I could make the time to see a show presentation that I, very much, wanted to see.   I was told that it was almost sold out and I’d have to get my ticket (if any were left when I got there) at the door of the theater.

 

I ran and cabbed instead of taking a bus to the theater and       got there about an hour before the show was to start. When I got to the theater I remembered it was a space that had NO waiting area. You couldn’t enter if a warm up rehearsal was still going on. I would have to wait in the street for what could be 50 minutes. I remember this happened at that theater in the winter once and it was freezing outside. I had my ticket for that on so I found a coffee shop a block away and waited inside.

 

Thankfully it was warm out today. I ended up not being one of the people admitted because a list, I wasn’t award of, had been set up beforehand. I finally did get to sign onto the list a few minutes before the show. It turns out the others got in and there was no seat for me.

 

A ”Miracle” occurred in my mind! I wasn’t angry. I was thinking – Ya know? I’m going to write to the theater managers and tell them to let people who use the theater space know that they need to communicate this to their audiences. Let them know they need to buy tickets in advance – and – if they can’t they should be aware that there’s no waiting space at the theater. Had I known, I may have made another decision.

I feel the same way now about political issues. Instead of “Protesting” – why don’t we try “Enlighten”?

 

Of course, we’ll still not want what we’ve been protesting against – to happen!

 

However, we may be more successful at getting what we rightfully should get, if we “ENLIGHTEN” people about why we’ll all benefit from what we believe should happen.

Published in: on July 8, 2017 at 11:46 pm  Leave a Comment  

Still Learning! I Learned Something I Never Expected To LearnWhile Spending a Wonderful Evening With My Son

For the last several years my annual Christmas gift to my son, David, has been a season subscription to a terrific series called “Broadway by the Year”, presented by our friends Barbara and Scott Siegel, at Town Hall. We meet for dinner before hand.

 

I have to admit that I now realize that I would sometimes think that I was really gifting myself more than I was gifting my son, because it insured me a night with him.

 

Last night I knew that my son would have to be heading home immediately after the performance due to work he had to attend to. Believe me, I know that feeling well myself.

 

I began worrying that I was too demanding on is time and knowledge and just the simple joy of his company and I heard myself asking him countless questions about his life feeling it was totally my job to see that his life went well and he was happy. Of course I got there early! I always do!!!! I just wrote a song with writer, Tom Toce, called “Why Can’t I Learn To Be Fashionably Late!” Then BOYNG! I realized I was doing it! I was there a half hour early and when my son got there I started making him “OK” (actually great), for every word he uttered. I realized I was doing just what my Daddy Morty, used to do. When I was 35 he kept telling me how I was really doing what was needed and that I shouldn’t worry – while at the same time he was looking at his watch worried he’s get home late.

 

My Dad so much wanted me to have a good life that he couldn’t be still about it and I often got worried that I wasn’t doing everything I should be doing to have a good life. Here I was being just the same way with my son!!!

 

This was an “EYE OPENER” and I’m totally grateful I got it.

 

I messaged my son, thanking him for the “eye opener” I got last night and telling him there was no need for him to answer the message.

 

Don’t ya know I got a call from him today, which totally helped me with a technical issue relating to my business and a terrific musical I produced and will be part of when it’s brought back to life this year.

 

He was there for me! He IS able to be there for himself and he IS there for himself. Sure – I can and will help him in any way I can, if he asks for my help.   I’m going to let him ask me. I would have asked my father more if he wasn’t always worried I wasn’t getting all that I should from my friends, boyfriends, husband…you name it!

 

I can finally breathe and realize my dad didn’t think “I couldn’t!” He just wanted me to know he loved me!

Published in: on June 20, 2017 at 9:12 pm  Leave a Comment  

Being I Better Shape Has Made My Mind More Able To Relax When Things Don’t Seem To Be Going My Way

I’m beginning to notice that since my physical being has become healthier, although my very first impulse when something isn’t going exactly according to plans is to feel nervous, I’m now able to say to myself, “Okay – what’s needed from me to make this work – in the best way possible for me.” I then find myself begin to breather at a slower pace and allow myself to say “Higher Power I need you guidance for this one at this moment. Guide me.”

 

 

I know the “Higher Power” work can sound “woo woo” at the beginning if you haven’t yet experienced its benefits. I’ve learned to understand, however, that developments that have occurred in our species – and in all species – have occurred to help humanity survive and have higher and higher levels of existence. I have a feeling that any of you who have successfully produced theater or different types of events can understand what I’m talking about. When things look like there’s no way to find the right musician to replace the musician who fell ill for an upcoming show – when you turn to your Higher Power and say, “I need some help here. I’m putting it I your hands. I’ve taken the courses and I know possible things I can choose to do. Guide me to the best choice.”   Just stopping for a moment and breathing allows me to proceed with the task in hand in a gentle way. I’m usually led to a path that gives me the best choices to make.

 

 

OKAY – why write about this on my blog about keeping and/or regaining your fitness?

 

 

I clearly see that since my body is in better shape and I need no drugs or stimulants to keep my body running smoothly – I find I’m led to better choices and I’m led to them more quickly. I’m able to breathe and allow the air to clear my brain and my stomach and I don’t clench and keep the wise thoughts dangling outside me.

Once I found which foods and exercises, etc. were best for my particular body I’ve been having a much simpler time of becoming calm and thinking clearly.

 

 

May 22nd will be my 77th Birthday and I feel healthier than I’ve ever been an I’m still energetic. What I’m going to concentrate on for the rest of May is finding time to relax and take a few hours off each week and just enjoy the sky and the trees in the park and the air. What I will concentrate on is smiling at people that I see in the street and not be offended if some people don’t respond or look annoyed that they were smiled at.   Often find that those who look tough and/or like they’d get offended by being smiled at are surprised by my smile and they smile back!

 

 

Try finding the foods, exercises etc. that work for YOU! I bet your life will run more smoothly too.

 

Have a Fabulous Time Being the Fabulous YOU!

Published in: on May 20, 2017 at 3:38 am  Comments (4)