“Notice The Words You Use After You Say: “I Am”

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I could combine the “Healthy, Wealthy & Wow!” and the “Bobbie Horowitz Productions, Inc.” segments of this post.  The way we state our “I Am” refers to every aspect of our lives. I’ve learned that how we use the phrase “I am” makes a big difference in the way our mind interprets situations.  Often we’re not conscious about who we say we are. Therefore we don’t look for the best actions we could  take to correct them,  if they’re not positive – or preserve them, if they are positive.

If we can transform some of the phrases we use we can make much better choices as to what to do about healing our body, getting into shape, looking well, being more effective in business and in performing and/or writing or painting (if we’re involved in the arts) etc. etc. etc. “I am” is a self-defining phrase. It says who you are.  When you’re saying, “I am” you’re also telling yourself who you are as well telling others.

I first learned this in an EST seminar over thirty-five years ago. Like so many things it slipped my mind now and then. Since it came to my mind this week, I shared it with a client with whom I do image consulting. I realized that if he needed to hear it, many others do to. I certainly need to keep remembering it myself.

This doesn’t have to be a long post – and  – it may be the most important thing I’ve posted. It pertains to every area of your life.

You truly are magnificent. I can hear voices saying, “Yeah right!” You may not believe it yet; but you are.  You were (almost all of us were) probably taught to use the English language in a way that says who you are in a less than 100% accurate way. I would think this occurs with every language – but I’m not sure. If you know of a language that doesn’t work this way I’d love you to let me know.

The words we choose to use after saying, “I Am” will affect the actions we take.  Let’s look at a couple of examples that should give you the idea of what I mean.

I’m certain you’ve heard people say things like the following:

I’m sick.

I’m fat

I’m too skinny

I’m tired

I’m not good looking

I’m down

I’m poor

I’m stupid

Etc. etc. etc. etc. etc.

Many of the actions you would have taken would have been different if you said,  “I often contract colds” than if you’d have said, “I’m sickly”. “I often contract” isn’t an “I am” statement. The I Am phrases affect our actions differently because they create a state of being in our mind and in the minds of those who listen to us. It creates something that can’t be changed.

Re the above statements – think of them this way: If you are sick – that’s what and who you are. You can’t get rid of the illness if that’s who and what you are. If you say “I have an illness” instead of “I’m sick”, you can look for a way to cure it.  When you have something you can get rid of it, right?

“I want to lose weight” implies that you can get rid of your extra weight. “I’m fat” – states who you are.

If you “feel sick” you can cure it so you don’t feel sick. Saying I have a sickness doesn’t identify you as being the sickness and will often get people into healing action much more quickly.

There are diseases that were once thought of as incurable that are now curable. I think a step toward finding the cure for a disease is wording the illness as something people have rather than something they are. Then one could say, Okay – they have X now. What can we do to get rid of it.

Give yourself a break, certainly in terms of getting and staying fit. Don’t say, “I’m fat”. Say I’ve got weight I’d like to lose. Better still, say I’m getting rid of the extra weight I don’t need to have.

Don’t blame yourself for using the “I am” form of words. They were most likely taught veto you in a less than helpful fashion. Try switching your “I am” phrases to make them more positive.

Bobbie Horowitz Productions, Inc. 

If you’re in theater you may also want to think of the “I am” phrases you use that can be keeping you from getting parts.  You can switch those phrases to positive phrases. It’ll serve much more to say: “I’ll need a rehearsal of this song before the audition” rather than to say, “I’m not a good enough singer.”

Think of all the “I am” phrases that you sometimes say – phrases that can make you think of yourself as lower than you truly are – and turn them around to your advantage.  Instead of saying, “I’m a slow study”, say “I’d thank you for giving me the script so I can learn the part in advance.”

You’ll find yourself respecting yourself more and others will regard you highly too!

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  1. Bobbie, This may well be your very best newsletter. I can’t wait to try out your advice. By the way, I turn 65 on this Friday.

  2. Thank you so much for your comment Larry. I know you turn 65. You always have the quality we associate with youth. You always want to learn.
    We could start changing that association and link it with humans who know they can always learn. I think the word “old” has been misinterpreted/
    The Elders used to be the “wise men” (of course, they interpreted women as loving and important, but not necessarily wise. However, everyone had a job in those days. It was the mans job to be wise. )
    I guess we haven’t interpreted “life” totally correctly yet. But – think of it this way – we’re in development!

    • Thanks for your reply, Bobbie. It made me feel good. I never thought of myself as someone who always wants to learn more. They say “Change a thought, you chsnge a feeling.” Is that right?

  3. Well said.

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