The Learning Continues! Instead of Fightin’ Let’s Enlighten!

In the past few months I’ve been finding myself to be “Learning! Learning! Learning!”


I’ve learned many ways to keep myself “fit” and, through my research, I’m glad that I’ve found ways to help YOU find good and healthy ways that work for YOU to get and stay fit.


What I’ve been learning I recent years is to admit that ‘life” doesn’t always seem “perfect” to me and I’ve written some Blog posts about that.


Yesterday and today I feel like I was hit “square in the face” with a finding that brought me back to a previous post I’d written some time ago.

Sometimes it takes me a few times to really Learn something! Do you find “re-learning” happens to you?


I’m usually the one smiling. People often ask me, “Don’t you ever get angry, Bobbie? “ I think that they’re thinking that I must be making it up.


Recently, I’ve been finding myself getting annoyed at things and I’ve realized that sometimes I am making it up!  I’m certainly, having a difficult time listening to the news or reading newspapers, these days. There’s so much anger abounding!


In the past two days I’ve gotten “bit” by ANGER twice. I realize that each time I’d gotten angry it was because I thought I’d been given wrong information.


Then the light went on!


If I was given information that didn’t help me get what I needed to know – I didn’t have to get angry! I could have helped the other person by letting them know what I “got” and that they could have communicated information that would have led me to think: ‘Oh right! I see what you need from me.”


If I TEACH INSTEAD OF FIGHT I’ll be more likely to get what I need and keep the other person on my team. They, probably, had no idea I would be surprised and/or angry by what I “got” from their invitation or explanation. I’m NOW quite sure they didn’t want to anger me. They wanted to sell me their product!


Today I discovered that I could make the time to see a show presentation that I, very much, wanted to see.   I was told that it was almost sold out and I’d have to get my ticket (if any were left when I got there) at the door of the theater.


I ran and cabbed instead of taking a bus to the theater and       got there about an hour before the show was to start. When I got to the theater I remembered it was a space that had NO waiting area. You couldn’t enter if a warm up rehearsal was still going on. I would have to wait in the street for what could be 50 minutes. I remember this happened at that theater in the winter once and it was freezing outside. I had my ticket for that on so I found a coffee shop a block away and waited inside.


Thankfully it was warm out today. I ended up not being one of the people admitted because a list, I wasn’t award of, had been set up beforehand. I finally did get to sign onto the list a few minutes before the show. It turns out the others got in and there was no seat for me.


A ”Miracle” occurred in my mind! I wasn’t angry. I was thinking – Ya know? I’m going to write to the theater managers and tell them to let people who use the theater space know that they need to communicate this to their audiences. Let them know they need to buy tickets in advance – and – if they can’t they should be aware that there’s no waiting space at the theater. Had I known, I may have made another decision.

I feel the same way now about political issues. Instead of “Protesting” – why don’t we try “Enlighten”?


Of course, we’ll still not want what we’ve been protesting against – to happen!


However, we may be more successful at getting what we rightfully should get, if we “ENLIGHTEN” people about why we’ll all benefit from what we believe should happen.

Published in: on July 8, 2017 at 11:46 pm  Leave a Comment  

Still Learning! I Learned Something I Never Expected To LearnWhile Spending a Wonderful Evening With My Son

For the last several years my annual Christmas gift to my son, David, has been a season subscription to a terrific series called “Broadway by the Year”, presented by our friends Barbara and Scott Siegel, at Town Hall. We meet for dinner before hand.


I have to admit that I now realize that I would sometimes think that I was really gifting myself more than I was gifting my son, because it insured me a night with him.


Last night I knew that my son would have to be heading home immediately after the performance due to work he had to attend to. Believe me, I know that feeling well myself.


I began worrying that I was too demanding on is time and knowledge and just the simple joy of his company and I heard myself asking him countless questions about his life feeling it was totally my job to see that his life went well and he was happy. Of course I got there early! I always do!!!! I just wrote a song with writer, Tom Toce, called “Why Can’t I Learn To Be Fashionably Late!” Then BOYNG! I realized I was doing it! I was there a half hour early and when my son got there I started making him “OK” (actually great), for every word he uttered. I realized I was doing just what my Daddy Morty, used to do. When I was 35 he kept telling me how I was really doing what was needed and that I shouldn’t worry – while at the same time he was looking at his watch worried he’s get home late.


My Dad so much wanted me to have a good life that he couldn’t be still about it and I often got worried that I wasn’t doing everything I should be doing to have a good life. Here I was being just the same way with my son!!!


This was an “EYE OPENER” and I’m totally grateful I got it.


I messaged my son, thanking him for the “eye opener” I got last night and telling him there was no need for him to answer the message.


Don’t ya know I got a call from him today, which totally helped me with a technical issue relating to my business and a terrific musical I produced and will be part of when it’s brought back to life this year.


He was there for me! He IS able to be there for himself and he IS there for himself. Sure – I can and will help him in any way I can, if he asks for my help.   I’m going to let him ask me. I would have asked my father more if he wasn’t always worried I wasn’t getting all that I should from my friends, boyfriends, husband…you name it!


I can finally breathe and realize my dad didn’t think “I couldn’t!” He just wanted me to know he loved me!

Published in: on June 20, 2017 at 9:12 pm  Leave a Comment  

Being I Better Shape Has Made My Mind More Able To Relax When Things Don’t Seem To Be Going My Way

I’m beginning to notice that since my physical being has become healthier, although my very first impulse when something isn’t going exactly according to plans is to feel nervous, I’m now able to say to myself, “Okay – what’s needed from me to make this work – in the best way possible for me.” I then find myself begin to breather at a slower pace and allow myself to say “Higher Power I need you guidance for this one at this moment. Guide me.”



I know the “Higher Power” work can sound “woo woo” at the beginning if you haven’t yet experienced its benefits. I’ve learned to understand, however, that developments that have occurred in our species – and in all species – have occurred to help humanity survive and have higher and higher levels of existence. I have a feeling that any of you who have successfully produced theater or different types of events can understand what I’m talking about. When things look like there’s no way to find the right musician to replace the musician who fell ill for an upcoming show – when you turn to your Higher Power and say, “I need some help here. I’m putting it I your hands. I’ve taken the courses and I know possible things I can choose to do. Guide me to the best choice.”   Just stopping for a moment and breathing allows me to proceed with the task in hand in a gentle way. I’m usually led to a path that gives me the best choices to make.



OKAY – why write about this on my blog about keeping and/or regaining your fitness?



I clearly see that since my body is in better shape and I need no drugs or stimulants to keep my body running smoothly – I find I’m led to better choices and I’m led to them more quickly. I’m able to breathe and allow the air to clear my brain and my stomach and I don’t clench and keep the wise thoughts dangling outside me.

Once I found which foods and exercises, etc. were best for my particular body I’ve been having a much simpler time of becoming calm and thinking clearly.



May 22nd will be my 77th Birthday and I feel healthier than I’ve ever been an I’m still energetic. What I’m going to concentrate on for the rest of May is finding time to relax and take a few hours off each week and just enjoy the sky and the trees in the park and the air. What I will concentrate on is smiling at people that I see in the street and not be offended if some people don’t respond or look annoyed that they were smiled at.   Often find that those who look tough and/or like they’d get offended by being smiled at are surprised by my smile and they smile back!



Try finding the foods, exercises etc. that work for YOU! I bet your life will run more smoothly too.


Have a Fabulous Time Being the Fabulous YOU!

Published in: on May 20, 2017 at 3:38 am  Comments (4)  

By Fulfilling the Needs Of the Individual Body Mind God Gave Us – We Help Ourself & the Whole Planet!

It recently dawned on me that eating “what’s right for me” (not necessarily what’s best for someone else) and doing the exercises that are best for my particular body has gotten me to be healthier than I’ve ever been (!) This, in turn is helping me realize that EVERYONE has greatness no matter what their particular body or mind or past history contains. In my next “It’s Just a Number!” cabaret show I honor people who perform and uplift audiences despite not being able to see or to hear properly. One of my honorees was deaf from birth and wAs able to feel the vibrations of different music notes and  sing beautifully despite not being able to hear. One very well known musical director whom I’m hooping lost much of his hearing while serving in the armed forces in the late 60s-early 70s and still became the musical director for Margaret Whiting (for over 25 years) and many “Greats”.

I’m so glad that found ways to get my body working well after thinking that, most likely, that could never happen – and – that I could use what I learned to help other people – by  writing the book “Fit and Fabulous From Fifty Forward!”  I thank the people who said, “How’d ya do it? Ya know – ya should write a book about it!”

I’ve done that with my songwriting, but didn’t realize I could get my body back into shape until I learned we’r not all the same. We each have to find out what our particular boy needs and then fill those needs. I use the food/exercise example to show that if we each allow ourselves to work with what God gave us as an individual – we’ll make progress. We help ourselves and we help the whole planet!

Published in: on April 7, 2017 at 4:15 pm  Comments (1)  

At Last! Learning To Be Financially Wise Is Appealing To Me!

I Will Learn How To Remain Financially Solvent and At Ease By the Same Method I Learned To Get My Body As Fit As Possible! Find the Correct Questions to Ask!


As I stated in my last blog post on Feb 22nd “This way of thinking helps me in terms of continuing to ask questions that I keep finding out are necessary to keep me “fit and fabulous” physically and, hopefully, mentally for many years to come.


Since tax season is here I’ve started to think about keeping my finances as fit as possible so that I can live 35 or more years longer and be able to continue living well for all those years.


I almost feel a new book coming on. However, I need to concentrate on:

  1. Marketing my book “Fit and Fabulous From Fifty Forward!” which helps others achieve what I, thankfully, learned to achieve
  2. Writing more songs
  3. Presenting entertainments that help uplift      audiences and
  4. Image Coaching and Color/Style, etc. classes, which greatly help the participants, by helping each of them realize how wonderful he or she is and how to communicate who they truly are through the image they project to the world.


My “work” is all based on what I love to do and I need to be sure that I’m proceeding in the best way for me to earn “my own keep” as I help others. There have been changes in these fields and I’m learning how to deal with any changes and how to keep taking care of myself financially. I know it’s doable and that as time moves on we need to expect changes in different fields.


I’m eager to show that we can adapt and succeed by doing what we love to do – and that we can do this at every age.


Published in: on March 10, 2017 at 11:18 pm  Leave a Comment  

The “World” Will Heal When We Each Realize We’re Each Here To Forward the GOOD In What We Call Our “Universe”.

Our Universe wants/needs Us To Be Healthy & Happy to accomplish this!


Please forgive me if I’m repeating something I said in a previous post. Please, also, forgive me if I sound what many call “Whoo Whoo” in this post.


Once again, I got a feeling from – I don’t know where – that what we call our “Solar System” is an organ in an entity we call the Universe.


As I live longer my mind is wandering in more and more directions that I would have thought of as crazy when I was in my 20s.

This is caused by my wanting to find more ways to remain “Fit and Fabulous” for many, many, many years!


I so wish I’d taken more science at Cornell. I’m now discovering that my alma mater has such great science departments! I always knew the science departments at Cornell were very good – however I didn’t realize how good.


I never thought of myself as a “science student”. I guess I thought “there are only so many hours in a lifetime” and I did – and still do -love helping people. We were taught to help people at The “NY State School of industrial and Labor Relations” at Cornell.   I did love my college education and now, as I grow older, in terms of years lived, I’m getting more and more turned on by thinking about science and how we can find the answers to questions that will lead to peace in our Universe. (I bet we’ll then deal with creating peace between many universes that we discover exist.)


I’m realizing that all studies are part of “the whole”.


This way of thinking helps me in terms of continuing to ask questions that I keep finding out are necessary to keep me “fit and fabulous” physically and I’m no thinking also in terms of “mentally fit and fabulous” for many years to come. I’m seeing that all studies are connected.


I’m getting the WONDER of life. Could you begin to imagine a world that had NO LIFE?


I doubt there could ever be such a thing – i.e., “a world with no life in it”! The spheres we call planets and suns and moons would probably corrode after a few million years, without wise living beings on them to take care of them and keep the spheres flourishing.


The more my mind wanders the more it settles on the same thought. That thought is that everything is here for the “GOOD”.  When I say “everything here”  (by “here” I mean everywhere we can imagine and then beyond that! I’m talking about trillions of miles – a distance I don’t have a word for) is part of one thing. That ONE thing – is what I’m intuiting more and more – is what we call GOD.


It makes sense to me that this “GOD” would want us to ALL be WELL – and healthy and loving and happy.


OMG! I just had another thought! I may have said this in a previous post. Happenings we think of as “BAD” may occur so that we feel compelled to conduct the necessary studies that will lead us to learn how to release “the bad” to further the “GOOD”! Therefore – It’s all good!

Published in: on February 23, 2017 at 1:16 am  Leave a Comment  

This Week I Realized That Time Seeming To FLY By In My 70s – Is A Good Thing!

It Means I’ve Learned To Do More Things More Easily Than I Could When I Was 10, 20, & 30 Yrs. Old! Duh!

What got me going on thinking about finding as many studies as I could – to find out more about improving my brain’s function was an incident that happened a couple of days ago on the 2nd Avenue Downtown Bus. It was a cold sunny day and as I snuggled myself into my window seat, I found myself immersed in “old people’s thoughts”!

I was thinking “Now that I’m old…I hardly remember being in all those buildings that I’m looking at: building I used to go into to buy things or to meet people for lunch, or be at meetings that were held in them, etc., etc., etc.

I looked out the window and it seemed as though the last 40 years swept by without my having any control over them! I started thinking that “Time flies (as the say) so quickly I’ll probably be leaving this planet very soon!

“Ah,” I thought …
• ”I forgot I used to spend time there!
• “I can’t even remember all, if any of the other people’s names!:
• “ OMG my son used to take a class down there! That was over 40 years ago now! What was the name of that kid he’d play with and what did his parents look like? I think we used to have dinner together.
• OMG! Time is nothing now. It just flies and flies and I’ll be 120 years old in no time!

I wondered:
• “Are any of my high schools friends still living, aside from those I speak too?
• How much longer will I be able to stay in my condo?
• Which rest home will my son be able to get me into?

It wasn’t till I’d almost reached my destination that I realized that it would be natural for time to seem to go more quickly because the more we do the same things the SIMPLER they become for us and seem to pass by more EASILY and QUICKLY.

I thought –“Hey, wait a minute! That’s really a good thing, no?”
Remember how long it seemed to take – when I was In the 2nd Grade – till it was finally lunch hour?

I started humming a song I wrote the words and music to called, “Never a Freshman Again!” It’s become the theme of the special cabaret series I present at The Metropolitan Room in NYC.

YIKES! That was, actually me thinking? Guess what?
I felt myself “wake up”, which is the only term I can think of and I clearly felt that the “old person’s thoughts” that were coming into my mind as though they were coming in for a character in a show I was writing.

Thankfully, I realized that I WAS CREATING A CHARACTER “OLD BOBBIE”! “OLD BOBBIE” WASN’T A REAL PERSON! Not yet at least and, she probably never will be a real character.

I’m quite sure that YOU don’t have to create “Old You!” either!

Published in: on February 6, 2017 at 3:48 pm  Leave a Comment  

I Discovered My Balance Improved Now That I’m In Better Shape

I had an exciting discovery today! The weather forecast called for some snow. I thought I’d heard it was going to be very snowy and cold, but a friend who was in town for her Birthday and whom I was meeting at Lincoln Center during the afternoon said she heard it would “just be a dusting”.



I’ve been rather cautious about being on slippery ground since I fell and hurt myself some years ago. I realize that I’m no longer in pain and I have rid myself of Osteoarthritis.



I tell you how I rid myself of it in my book “Fit and Fabulous From Fifty Forward!” It was a simpler process than I ever thought could be!



At any rate today I could hear myself start talking to myself out loud when I walked out of my building. They hadn’t yet swept well outside when I needed to leave. I treated myself to a taxi and, even picked my friend up and we proceeded to Lincoln Center. I will say that the entrance to The Lincoln Center Library was scary. It was totally white and the pavement looked as though it hadn’t been swept. It had been somewhat swept, but not very well.



I followed my friend, the lovely and very caring and community serving, Jae French. She took hold of my arm and was helping me stay erect when I realized I had good balance on my own now. It seems as though the exercises I’ve been doing for the past several years have, indeed, strengthened my core and I did quite well walking on my own. I kept saying to myself, “Walk slowly and steadily Bobbie. You’ll make it.”



When I left to go home took a bus down Broadway to Fifth Avenue and 34th St. and then had to change for the 34th Street Crosstown Bus to First Avenue. The streets were tick with snow. I just kept saying “Walk slowly Bobbie and you’ll make it!” There were no available Taxi’s and I was glad. It forced me to do the job. Having a “positive” attitude and giving myself the time and believing I could do it – got me home safely and happily! I, actually, enjoyed my walk in the freezing cold and thick snow!



I know you can do things you’ve been afraid to. Yes – give yourself time and keep your eyes opened. Do the exercise and nutrition work it takes for you to get into your best shape possible. Then work on doing something just a bit more “difficult” than you customarily do.



If I can do it – YOU can do it too.

Published in: on January 8, 2017 at 3:40 am  Leave a Comment  

Just When I Think I Got It All Down …… I DO! (Note: I’m re-posting this because it hadn’t gotten on to my Fit and Fabulous From Fifty Forward site)

I just realized that I got a major life “break through” while writing lyrics to a new song! I had no – I mean NO  idea – this would happen as a result of writing this particular song!


I now realize that very often this how I do get major “break throughs”! The very opposite of a thought I’ve been holding turns out to be my truth.


I was busy trying to think of how to work out the lyrics to a song that I’d asked a well-known composer/musical director to consider writing music to when I got the lyrics to him. He liked the idea I was working on and said he’d definitely consider putting music to it when I’d gotten it done – if he felt it could help people.


I made a schedule for writing the song and put it in my planning calendar.

Every time I sat down to get the song written something would distract me from writing it. I’d get a call from someone who needed to change the date for a meeting or one of the performers in my upcoming cabaret show would get cast in an out of town Equity musical or my bedroom window shade would break or …or …or…


I felt I wasn’t destined to write this song and I was feeling very nervous about it.


Then, while on the bus to the musical presentation workshop I take, I found myself writing lyrics to a comedy song about handling my life. I was calling it “Just When I Think I Got It All Down!” Of course, in this song just when I would think I had life handled, something would come up that would keep me from handling it – so I never get life handled!


Guess what?

  • I’d been trying to reach a prospective client, who said she’d be interested in booking me for a private image consulting consultation, for weeks.   While I was on the bus, writing this song, that very person ran up to me and said they’d been unexpectedly called out of town and were so glad to be back and to run into me so she could book her session. I got the date for the session booked on the buss ride!
  • Then I looked at my emails and saw that I’d received a request to give a talk about my book “Fit and Fabulous From Fifty Forward!” at a book fair. I’d put the intention to book a talk about my book at a book fair into my planner a few weeks before this.
  • Then, when I got home that evening, I received and email from  a wonderful performer asking me if I might write a special song for her. If I may say so, it felt as though the lyrics to that comedy/truth song I wrote for her came to me from heaven and she performed it amazingly well!


I’ve changed the title to the song I was writing on the bus when I was so frustrated with myself. I’m now finishing it up. The title tells that all the negative stuff I’d thought was my truth – isn’t my truth at all!  When I look back over my life I realize this is how it’s very often worked for me. It might take a day or two longer than I’d planned; but things work out.


Of course, Monty Python took the title I’d like to use – “Always Look On the Bright Side of Life!”Oh well…I’m not worried…I’ll find a title. … wait a minute!


The title of the song now is: Just When I Think I Got It All Down …… I DO!

Published in: on November 24, 2016 at 5:03 pm  Leave a Comment  

You & I Are & Have Enough To Contribute What We’re Here To Contribute

I’ve been planning my workshops that help you know what YOU should best wear if you’re working or have a business or are looking for romance, etc. etc. In the process of preparing these workshops my mind kept getting drawn to myself and the word “ENOUGH”.   I’m capitalizing that word because although there are great songs like “Enough Is Enough!” (with that word in it) – I was, once again,  wondering what it takes to truly know you’re “enough”.


If I’m the one who’ll be teaching  “you’re enough” –  How come I sometimes feel as though I’m not doing enough, saving enough, etc. etc. etc.!  If the “you” in “yourself” IS ENOUGH – how come the “Me inside Me” not “doing” enough often bothers me?


Then, when I go over my bio, once again,  I realize I’ve done a lot! I’ve done more than many, many humans have.  My goodness!  I Am Enough!


I’m GLAD this happens to me. Why? I’m glad because it makes me breathe and take a moment to look at my “to do” list that’s in my head and let myself know that it’s ok to take a rest now and then. When I sit back and look at what I need to accomplish to get the tasks I set up for myself done I can make a list of things to cut out; things which won’t affect my getting the things done more quickly or done better.


Some people are “lazy” because they’ve been taught to be.   If you think you are, I say, for now, make a list and don’t plan interfering partying until you complete your list. Once that’s done you’ll see you aren’t lazy!

Most of the people I know are “Doers” like me.  To the people like me I go back to one of my favorite radio shows (remember radio shows?) “Archie Andrews” – and I tell myself “Relax Archie! Relax!”


I think I posted a similar post last autumn. Wow! I just looked it up – it was last October!  For some reason autumn is  the season it usually hits me. Perhaps it’s because it’s the beginning of the new theatrical performance season  (Hmm… I feel a song coming on!)


I’ll repeat the idea of the Autumn Post because it’s important. We are each born ENOUGH! With whatever physical or mental conditions we have we are each a cell in the Universe and here to contribute what WE (we as individuals) are here to contribute. We are ENOUGH to do that.


If you’re reading this I bet you are contributing to the world.  You can make little changes, as needed, when they’re needed – and – YOU ARE ENOUGH! (I AM TOO!)


Published in: on October 24, 2016 at 7:38 pm  Leave a Comment